My Beloved Fiancee and I went today to look at a location we're considering for our wedding and reception. As we were talking to the event co-ordinator, My Beloved started talking about Middle Son, how he might react, and how we might be able to set up an area for him that would be a little sheltered from the noise and commotion but still allow him to observe the festivities. I discovered that My Beloved had already talked with the co-ordinator about Middle when she had set up the appointment.
I teared up a little. I am accustomed to being the only one who is thinking about Middle's wants and needs and taking action, the only one truly tending to his future. I don't for a moment question MomC's devotion to all of her children, but I rarely,see her engaging with Middle's challenges in the here-and-now, let alone in the future.
And here My Beloved was taking action about something I hadn't even thought about in Middle's future. She tells me that she's always thinking about my boys and their future and needs, and especially about Middle. And now I've seen the it in action.
I am in awe of my (and my children's) great fortune to have found such a wonderful woman. (If you're reading this babe, I love you this <-------------------> big.)
Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Dinner and Snacks
Youngest Son asked to be excused from dinner tonight with eating much. I told him he needed to eat some more food. And he did. So I excused him from the table.
About 10 minutes later he asked if he could have a snack. I told him "no, if you are hungry now it is because you didn't eat enough dinner food, and you don't get a snack until bedtime." He tried a couple more times, but I stuck to my line.
About 8:45 he said he was ready for his snack. I had him turn the TV off and use the bathroom, and told him that after he ate he would go to bed. So he ate. Then he said "maybe I'm not ready to go to sleep yet."
I told him that he had just had his bedtime snack, so now he had to go in his room. If he wasn't sleepy he didn't have to go to sleep, but he had to stay in his room. He went in, and didn't come back out. Apparently he was ready to go to sleep.
About 10 minutes later he asked if he could have a snack. I told him "no, if you are hungry now it is because you didn't eat enough dinner food, and you don't get a snack until bedtime." He tried a couple more times, but I stuck to my line.
About 8:45 he said he was ready for his snack. I had him turn the TV off and use the bathroom, and told him that after he ate he would go to bed. So he ate. Then he said "maybe I'm not ready to go to sleep yet."
I told him that he had just had his bedtime snack, so now he had to go in his room. If he wasn't sleepy he didn't have to go to sleep, but he had to stay in his room. He went in, and didn't come back out. Apparently he was ready to go to sleep.
Tuesday, February 26, 2013
Nighttime Feeding
There was lots of motion during the night last night. Both Oldest Son and Middle Son were up moving around. I woke around 4:30 to the sound of Middle Son flushing the toilet repeatedly and never got all the way back to sleep.
Oldest slept through his alarm and missed the bus today.
When I woke up Middle, in his bed a found the bag of bagels that I had left on the counter last night. It had been a brand-new bag with six bagels in it. Now there were only four.
If he'd eaten his food instead of throwing it at me, I bet he wouldn't have needed to eat two bagels in the middle of the night.
Oldest slept through his alarm and missed the bus today.
When I woke up Middle, in his bed a found the bag of bagels that I had left on the counter last night. It had been a brand-new bag with six bagels in it. Now there were only four.
If he'd eaten his food instead of throwing it at me, I bet he wouldn't have needed to eat two bagels in the middle of the night.
Monday, February 25, 2013
Temper and Food
Middle Son got up from the table in during dinner with his plate in his hand. That usually means he's planning to dump his food into the trash. Since he hadn't eaten much, I didn't want him to do that. So I got up and went to stand in front of the sink, blocking his path. When he saw me standing there, he flicked his plate so that all the food went flying off, towards me.
Pasta in alfredo sauce, corn, and sliced apples. Big mess. I cursed in front of my children for the first time in a couple of years.
Pasta in alfredo sauce, corn, and sliced apples. Big mess. I cursed in front of my children for the first time in a couple of years.
Sunday, February 24, 2013
More Batman
More Batman paraphernalia arrived this weekend. We have now Batman sheets and a Batman pillowcase. Still waiting on the Batman comforter.
Friday, February 22, 2013
More on Executive Function
I had a very interesting conversation with a coworker of mine about executive function.
He has shared with me that he has a diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome, just like Oldest Son. I was describing the conversation that I had with Oldest about executive function, homework, and future careers.
He said that one of the things that he really struggles with is juggling multiple activities over long time spans. If he is told in January that there are five projects that he needs to have done by May, he has a really hard time planning out the different tasks and managing them. It's far easier for him to have only a single project at a time. He contrasted that with his own manager, who has told him that he gets bored if he has to stick with a single task for too long, and much prefers to move between multiple tasks.
I want to share that with Oldest next week, when he is back at my house.
He has shared with me that he has a diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome, just like Oldest Son. I was describing the conversation that I had with Oldest about executive function, homework, and future careers.
He said that one of the things that he really struggles with is juggling multiple activities over long time spans. If he is told in January that there are five projects that he needs to have done by May, he has a really hard time planning out the different tasks and managing them. It's far easier for him to have only a single project at a time. He contrasted that with his own manager, who has told him that he gets bored if he has to stick with a single task for too long, and much prefers to move between multiple tasks.
I want to share that with Oldest next week, when he is back at my house.
Thursday, February 21, 2013
Going to the Car
My nanny was out today, so Middle Son went to MomC's house after school, and I picked him up after work. When I got there he wasn't ready--didn't have his socks or shoes on. While I was waiting for him to do that, I was talking with MomC, and Oldest and Youngest Son's.
We will still talking when Middle was ready, so I told him to go out to the car. I wasn't sure that he would. Sometimes he wanders around the yard, or if he has enough time, into someone else's yard.
When I went outside, he was sitting in the car. He'd done just what I asked him to do.
We will still talking when Middle was ready, so I told him to go out to the car. I wasn't sure that he would. Sometimes he wanders around the yard, or if he has enough time, into someone else's yard.
When I went outside, he was sitting in the car. He'd done just what I asked him to do.
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