I discovered something interesting this week washing Middle's hair.
Normally he HATES having his head touch. I pour some shampoo onto his head, and them he rubs it for a while, and then I wrestle with him to get it rinsed.
I got a new lofa for him for the shower. He had a lot of shampoo on his head, so I wanted to get some of it onto the lofa. And having the lofa touch his head seems to bother him considerably less.
And then I had him take the lofa to wash himself, rather than me scrubbing him down. He really enjoyed washing himself. He was squealing and giggling. I had to keep pointing to body parts to remind him what needed to be scrubbed, but he got himself really clean.