"It's possible that your next frontier isn't to get more efficient, it's to get more brave."I've been thinking lately about efficiency. A while back when I was doing laundry, I hit on the idea of having Middle Son fold the laundry and carry each garment individually to the bedroom to put it away, rather than stack them all in the laundry basket and carry them in one trip.
It doesn't seem efficient--we walk back and forth to the bedroom 30 or 40 times, and it takes 5 times longer for him to fold the laundry that it does for me to do it. If I folded it and he carried the full laundry basket, he'd spend the other 20 minutes shredding toilet paper. And I'd probably spend it screwing around on Facebook.
By doing it this way, I keep Middle engaged with me for 20 minutes. Godin writes a lot about emotional labor and emotional courage. I think when he says brave, he means engaging with the people around you, engaging with their fears, and engaging with your fears.
In a small way, that's what I'm doing when we put the laundry away. I'm engaging with Middle, with his fears/challenges around tasks, and my fears of his future given his inability to care for himself and make his way in the world.