Middle Son's bedtime routine starts at 8:30. I give him his night time medicine. We brush his teeth and shave his face. Then it's time for his shower. I scrub him with a loofa, then I give it to him and let him scrub and enjoy the warm water for a while. After a little time, I rinse him off and he gets out. I dry his back for him.
Middle has always been prompt dependent. He has to be told to close the shower curtain. He has to be told to hang up his towel. He has to be told to pick up his dirty clothes and put them in his laundry basket.
A month or so ago, I started fading out of the room after drying his back. I wanted to see if he what he would do if I didn't give him any instructions. I would walk out and partially close the door. Every few minutes I'd peak in to see what he was doing. I discovered that if I waited long enough, 10-12 minutes, he finish drying himself. He would close the shower curtain. He would pick up his dirty clothes and put them in his laundry basket.
Now most nights he will do everything without prompting. Sometimes he will forget one of his tasks. Most commonly, he doesn't get all of his dirty clothes out of the bathroom and I have to tell him to go back in and get a dirty sock.
It feels very slow. I have to remind myself to give him time. As he does so often, Middle reminds me that patience is a great virtue.